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Check their Fridge

A Dating Guide

Prologue: Winter 1998

We’ve all been there: on a date when we get that first invitation back to their apartment. Considering I made out with Haley in the street on our last date, one thing was certain: tonight I was going to see her topless.

Factoring that in with her preppy looks, her Princeton education and her Jewish background, I guesstimated that I had a 50% chance of sex-sex and a 40% chance of something even more personal to women than sex-sex: oral sex ... Read More

ThrowbackThurs

I was a live guest on the Fox 4 morning show in Kansas City: http://fox4kc.com/2013/12/04/worlds-1st-refrigerator-dating-expert-open-your-fridge-open-your-heart/

It’s the first time I caused a woman to fan herself, live on the air!

It was a pleasure working with the whole Fox 4 team!

Follow the Fox4 KC team here:
@fox4mornings
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6Medium, Media,

Fridge Analysis

Dear Stonehill,

I’m newly single and starting to date again. I only over-think, like everything, so be gentle. What does my Fridge say about me? I want to put my best foot forward.

-Robin

Stonehill Analysis

Robin, first off, you have really nice melons, but we’ll get into that later. Second, never change your fridge for a guy. He’s going to figure out who you are sooner or later, so don’t waste time trying to impress him. You have no idea what he’s looking for anyway and if he doesn’t dig you being you, he can piss off.

That said, here’s what your Fridge tells me…

You’re likely a Vegan and most definitely into your career. You’re probably too busy with work to stock your fridge, and too busy to cook, thus no ingredients to make a meal. You just have snacks and they’re all fruit except for the mystery bowl at the bottom.

The fact that you shop at Whole Foods says you’re willing to pay a bit more and that you bought two melon halves already cleaned out rather than buy a whole one for less money reinforces that you’re not counting pennies.

If you are a vegan, it could go either way. Dating is a team sport and if your date is willing to accept your love of veggie-ville, you need to accept his love of the once-living. Taking turns on restaurants is the way to go. But if you think your lifestyle should now be his lifestyle, I’d advise your date to shag now-ask questions never.

You also seem to be a world traveler, always a plus. You got that thing that looks like a porcupine mated with a football. I’ve never seen it in the US, so I assume you discovered it somewhere overseas.

You’re also the environmentally conscious type as you’re on the go, yet don’t have a 12-pack of bottled water. You probably take a reusable water bottle with you, and though I can’t see the door of your fridge, a class schedule from Equinox is a good bet.

Be aware that you might make more money than your date, and have a higher stamp count on your passport. As long as you still let the guy be the guy, he should be okay with it.

Fridge Dating Scorecard

Shag on first date: 7
When it comes to sex, you don’t have time to play games. You’re busy with your career and that carries over to the bedroom. As a Vegan, you’re probably into Yoga and don’t tirelessly work on that yoga-tush for nothing.

Marry: 6
You have potential Robin, but a concern is you won’t let the guy be the guy. Career women like to be in control and that bleeds into their dating. Though it constantly works against them, they often don’t see it.

Boil your Bunny: 2
You love animals, so boiling them is not your thing.

6Medium, Maybebang, Female, Love, Dating, Romance, Relationships, Food, Refrigerator,

#DateTipTuesdays

#DateTipTuesdays

Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge

As the weather’s warming up, we’re starting to think summer travel plans. If you’re single, it’s the perfect time to seek out adventure and up your odds in the process.

Enjoy this part of your life. When you’re married, you’ll look back fondly on these experiences. But you have to make the memories first.

During the winter, I touched on two killer destinations for men and women to meet singles of the opposite sex: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s14Jge4e

For summer, here are 4 destinations for men and women to throw into their consideration pool.

And as we all LOVE to travel, I’ll touch on more destinations for both singles and couples to consider throughout the season.

Single Women

Vegas

No matter how many women there are in Vegas, there’s always one constant: more men. It might not be the sausage fest of March Madness or the Super Bowl, but the odds will be in your favor.

Stonehill suggestion: As countless women dress like it’s Halloween every night of the year there and think sluttier = hotter, wear a cute sundress. You’ll look prettier, plus up your odds of attracting dudes you’d actually want to talk to.

Ireland or Scotland

I’m not saying you’ll meet the man of your dreams, but you’ll have a blast, plus boost your ego in the process. There are countless neighborhood pubs where you can make countless new friends. The people there are so friendly and fun, and after a couple of pints, you’ll have a bar of new besties.

Plus, most pubs are guy-heavy, so you’ll get plenty of attention. Outside the pubs, the countryside has some of the most beautiful scenery on earth and cities like Edinburgh are stunning. You can even try a Scotch or Whiskey tasting. It’s fun, tasty and guy-heavy as well ☺.

Single Men

Paris

Your first thought is, huh? Single dudes going to Paris? Never heard of it. Exactly!

Hordes of women hit this romantic city for many reasons, from the food, to the art to the romance. And that’s where you come in.

Don’t get me wrong. You should enjoy the food and art, too. But if love is in the air, capture that beautiful butterfly pal!

Chicago

Another surprise pick to some of you, but hells yes. A close friend of mine had his bachelor party there a few years ago and my first thought was, are you kidding?? Why not Vegas or South Beach???

Turned out to be the most fun bachelor party weekend I ever had. The food is great and tailor-made for dudes with some of the best steaks, BBQ and Pizza anywhere.

There’s tons of guy stuff to do, from Wrigley to chartering a boat up the Chicago River with a chest of beers to hitting the beaches.

And third, the women there are friendly and beautiful. If you dress well and have more to talk about than yourself or the Bears, you’ll make out like a bandit. And with those harsh Chicago winters, the locals want to squeeze as much fun out of their summers as possible. (Go you ☺)

6Medium, Tips,

Fridge Clues

It’s fun to treat a fridge like a puzzle: a mystery to solve and inside are the clues.

Now, you can’t learn everything about a person by checking their fridge, but most often you can gain insight.

One insight that readers often ask me about is when you can learn about a person’s geographic location.

Of course, with foodie and specialty stores, you can get just about anything from anywhere in major cities, but for certain products, if you have them, the odds are you live in a specific area.

For example, if you have:

•   Hellman’s Mayo, you’re east of the Mississippi.  Best Foods, you live West.

•   Poland Spring, you live East of the Miss, Arrowhead you’re West.

•   Temptee Cream cheese, you’re on the east coast.  West of the Miss, you have…well nothing specific, the bagels are shit out here.

Now on the beer front, with the rise of micro-brews, the map has gotten interesting.  Publications like http://aleheads.com, http://www.seriouseats.com and http://www.thrillist.com have all produced maps of best local beers by state.

Check the out the maps above.  If you see these beers in the pic of someone’s fridge, it offers a clue on where they live or perhaps where they’re from.

And stay tuned for more #Fridge Clues to come.
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Fridge Clues

It’s fun to treat a fridge like a puzzle: a mystery to solve and inside are the clues.

Now, you can’t learn everything about a person by checking their fridge, but most often you can gain insight.

One insight that readers often ask me about is when you can learn about a person’s geographic location.

Of course, with foodie and specialty stores, you can get just about anything from anywhere in major cities, but for certain products, if you have them, the odds are you live in a specific area.

For example, if you have:

•   Hellman’s Mayo, you’re east of the Mississippi.  Best Foods, you live West.

•   Poland Spring, you live East of the Miss, Arrowhead you’re West.

•   Temptee Cream cheese, you’re on the east coast.  West of the Miss, you have…well nothing specific, the bagels are shit out here.

Now on the beer front, with the rise of micro-brews, the map has gotten interesting.  Publications like http://aleheads.com, http://www.seriouseats.com and http://www.thrillist.com have all produced maps of best local beers by state.

Check the out the maps above.  If you see these beers in the pic of someone’s fridge, it offers a clue on where they live or perhaps where they’re from.

And stay tuned for more #Fridge Clues to come.
ZoomInfo

Fridge Clues

It’s fun to treat a fridge like a puzzle: a mystery to solve and inside are the clues.

Now, you can’t learn everything about a person by checking their fridge, but most often you can gain insight.

One insight that readers often ask me about is when you can learn about a person’s geographic location.

Of course, with foodie and specialty stores, you can get just about anything from anywhere in major cities, but for certain products, if you have them, the odds are you live in a specific area.

For example, if you have:

• Hellman’s Mayo, you’re east of the Mississippi. Best Foods, you live West.

• Poland Spring, you live East of the Miss, Arrowhead you’re West.

• Temptee Cream cheese, you’re on the east coast. West of the Miss, you have…well nothing specific, the bagels are shit out here.

Now on the beer front, with the rise of micro-brews, the map has gotten interesting. Publications like http://aleheads.com, http://www.seriouseats.com and http://www.thrillist.com have all produced maps of best local beers by state.

Check the out the maps above. If you see these beers in the pic of someone’s fridge, it offers a clue on where they live or perhaps where they’re from.

And stay tuned for more #Fridge Clues to come.

6Medium, Tips,

Dating Ammo

Welcome to CTF’s Dating Ammo.

Each week, we’ll talk about a new food or drink related product that can be a great asset for your next date.

This week’s ammo: 3 new products I like at Trader Joe’s.

Dating doesn’t have to be expensive.  And there’s plenty of deadly dating ammo out there on the cheap.

So often, it’s the little things we appreciate most.  If you and your date have a connection, you just need to grease the rails, not win them over with extravagance.

Whether it’s to kickoff the evening before going out, a mini picnic or a nightcap back at your place, the right ammo can be the best dating wingman you ever had.

1: Thai Lime & Chili Almonds

We all love Spring for many reasons.  One of them is that more of our drinking will be done outside.   A fresh drink and fresh air go hand in hand.  And these tasty almonds are the perfect snack to pair with a beer or glass of white wine.

Would they also kick ass in a salad?  Of course, but today is about a great snack for your date, not a cooking class.

I also like that these bad boys are made in Thailand for authenticity and flavor, not to save dinero in a sweatshop.  Plus, almonds are healthy ‘superfood’, so however your date turns out, you’ll look better nonetheless.

More info here: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/thai-lime-chili-almonds-

2: Sukiyaki

The hard part of the dating is getting them back to your pad.  The easy part is keeping them there.  To help with those efforts, always have a tasty frozen entrée or two on standby in your freezer.

This new Sukiyaki is a great choice.  It’s got thinly sliced beef, veggies and noodles in a soy sauce and sake broth.  That’s a delish Hat Trick in my book.  And it’s only 7 bucks.  Tasty, cheap and quicker than delivery.  Survey says…bing!

For back-up, or in case you guys have a serious case of the late night munchies, the new 5 Cheese Frusta looks killer for tackling appetites and coating tummies after a night of drinking.

More info here for Sukiyaki: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/sukiyaki

More info here for 5 Cheese Frusta: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/5-cheese-frusta

3: French Vanilla Coffee

This might not be your new favorite coffee, but I guarantee it will smell like 8 shades of awesome while you’re brewing it.

The fact it, you can’t go wrong with Starbucks, Blue Bottle or Stumptown.  But our schedules are busy and we often don’t have time to hit more than 1 market.

When it comes to our 5 senses, the most under-rated for dating is smell.  And a killer date move is to wake them up to the smell of fresh brewed coffee.  (Here’s a #DateTipTuesdays on the subject: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s19S9sVh

I also like to see couples try new things together.  If you both love something, perfect, you can keep on loving it together.  If you don’t, perfect, you can look forward to trying something else together.

Plus, with French Vanilla Coffee, it perfectly pairs with ice cream and dessert.  The caffeine might keep you up awhile.  But considering you have a date over for dessert, chances are, you won’t be going to sleep any time soon ☺.

More info here for French Vanilla Coffee: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/french-vanilla-coffee

For “What Men Really Want on the 1st Date read here: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s18NwCDc)
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Dating Ammo

Welcome to CTF’s Dating Ammo.

Each week, we’ll talk about a new food or drink related product that can be a great asset for your next date.

This week’s ammo: 3 new products I like at Trader Joe’s.

Dating doesn’t have to be expensive.  And there’s plenty of deadly dating ammo out there on the cheap.

So often, it’s the little things we appreciate most.  If you and your date have a connection, you just need to grease the rails, not win them over with extravagance.

Whether it’s to kickoff the evening before going out, a mini picnic or a nightcap back at your place, the right ammo can be the best dating wingman you ever had.

1: Thai Lime & Chili Almonds

We all love Spring for many reasons.  One of them is that more of our drinking will be done outside.   A fresh drink and fresh air go hand in hand.  And these tasty almonds are the perfect snack to pair with a beer or glass of white wine.

Would they also kick ass in a salad?  Of course, but today is about a great snack for your date, not a cooking class.

I also like that these bad boys are made in Thailand for authenticity and flavor, not to save dinero in a sweatshop.  Plus, almonds are healthy ‘superfood’, so however your date turns out, you’ll look better nonetheless.

More info here: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/thai-lime-chili-almonds-

2: Sukiyaki

The hard part of the dating is getting them back to your pad.  The easy part is keeping them there.  To help with those efforts, always have a tasty frozen entrée or two on standby in your freezer.

This new Sukiyaki is a great choice.  It’s got thinly sliced beef, veggies and noodles in a soy sauce and sake broth.  That’s a delish Hat Trick in my book.  And it’s only 7 bucks.  Tasty, cheap and quicker than delivery.  Survey says…bing!

For back-up, or in case you guys have a serious case of the late night munchies, the new 5 Cheese Frusta looks killer for tackling appetites and coating tummies after a night of drinking.

More info here for Sukiyaki: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/sukiyaki

More info here for 5 Cheese Frusta: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/5-cheese-frusta

3: French Vanilla Coffee

This might not be your new favorite coffee, but I guarantee it will smell like 8 shades of awesome while you’re brewing it.

The fact it, you can’t go wrong with Starbucks, Blue Bottle or Stumptown.  But our schedules are busy and we often don’t have time to hit more than 1 market.

When it comes to our 5 senses, the most under-rated for dating is smell.  And a killer date move is to wake them up to the smell of fresh brewed coffee.  (Here’s a #DateTipTuesdays on the subject: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s19S9sVh

I also like to see couples try new things together.  If you both love something, perfect, you can keep on loving it together.  If you don’t, perfect, you can look forward to trying something else together.

Plus, with French Vanilla Coffee, it perfectly pairs with ice cream and dessert.  The caffeine might keep you up awhile.  But considering you have a date over for dessert, chances are, you won’t be going to sleep any time soon ☺.

More info here for French Vanilla Coffee: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/french-vanilla-coffee

For “What Men Really Want on the 1st Date read here: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s18NwCDc)
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Dating Ammo

Welcome to CTF’s Dating Ammo.

Each week, we’ll talk about a new food or drink related product that can be a great asset for your next date.

This week’s ammo: 3 new products I like at Trader Joe’s.

Dating doesn’t have to be expensive.  And there’s plenty of deadly dating ammo out there on the cheap.

So often, it’s the little things we appreciate most.  If you and your date have a connection, you just need to grease the rails, not win them over with extravagance.

Whether it’s to kickoff the evening before going out, a mini picnic or a nightcap back at your place, the right ammo can be the best dating wingman you ever had.

1: Thai Lime & Chili Almonds

We all love Spring for many reasons.  One of them is that more of our drinking will be done outside.   A fresh drink and fresh air go hand in hand.  And these tasty almonds are the perfect snack to pair with a beer or glass of white wine.

Would they also kick ass in a salad?  Of course, but today is about a great snack for your date, not a cooking class.

I also like that these bad boys are made in Thailand for authenticity and flavor, not to save dinero in a sweatshop.  Plus, almonds are healthy ‘superfood’, so however your date turns out, you’ll look better nonetheless.

More info here: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/thai-lime-chili-almonds-

2: Sukiyaki

The hard part of the dating is getting them back to your pad.  The easy part is keeping them there.  To help with those efforts, always have a tasty frozen entrée or two on standby in your freezer.

This new Sukiyaki is a great choice.  It’s got thinly sliced beef, veggies and noodles in a soy sauce and sake broth.  That’s a delish Hat Trick in my book.  And it’s only 7 bucks.  Tasty, cheap and quicker than delivery.  Survey says…bing!

For back-up, or in case you guys have a serious case of the late night munchies, the new 5 Cheese Frusta looks killer for tackling appetites and coating tummies after a night of drinking.

More info here for Sukiyaki: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/sukiyaki

More info here for 5 Cheese Frusta: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/5-cheese-frusta

3: French Vanilla Coffee

This might not be your new favorite coffee, but I guarantee it will smell like 8 shades of awesome while you’re brewing it.

The fact it, you can’t go wrong with Starbucks, Blue Bottle or Stumptown.  But our schedules are busy and we often don’t have time to hit more than 1 market.

When it comes to our 5 senses, the most under-rated for dating is smell.  And a killer date move is to wake them up to the smell of fresh brewed coffee.  (Here’s a #DateTipTuesdays on the subject: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s19S9sVh

I also like to see couples try new things together.  If you both love something, perfect, you can keep on loving it together.  If you don’t, perfect, you can look forward to trying something else together.

Plus, with French Vanilla Coffee, it perfectly pairs with ice cream and dessert.  The caffeine might keep you up awhile.  But considering you have a date over for dessert, chances are, you won’t be going to sleep any time soon ☺.

More info here for French Vanilla Coffee: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/french-vanilla-coffee

For “What Men Really Want on the 1st Date read here: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s18NwCDc)
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Dating Ammo

Welcome to CTF’s Dating Ammo.

Each week, we’ll talk about a new food or drink related product that can be a great asset for your next date.

This week’s ammo: 3 new products I like at Trader Joe’s.

Dating doesn’t have to be expensive. And there’s plenty of deadly dating ammo out there on the cheap.

So often, it’s the little things we appreciate most. If you and your date have a connection, you just need to grease the rails, not win them over with extravagance.

Whether it’s to kickoff the evening before going out, a mini picnic or a nightcap back at your place, the right ammo can be the best dating wingman you ever had.

1: Thai Lime & Chili Almonds

We all love Spring for many reasons. One of them is that more of our drinking will be done outside. A fresh drink and fresh air go hand in hand. And these tasty almonds are the perfect snack to pair with a beer or glass of white wine.

Would they also kick ass in a salad? Of course, but today is about a great snack for your date, not a cooking class.

I also like that these bad boys are made in Thailand for authenticity and flavor, not to save dinero in a sweatshop. Plus, almonds are healthy ‘superfood’, so however your date turns out, you’ll look better nonetheless.

More info here: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/thai-lime-chili-almonds-

2: Sukiyaki

The hard part of the dating is getting them back to your pad. The easy part is keeping them there. To help with those efforts, always have a tasty frozen entrée or two on standby in your freezer.

This new Sukiyaki is a great choice. It’s got thinly sliced beef, veggies and noodles in a soy sauce and sake broth. That’s a delish Hat Trick in my book. And it’s only 7 bucks. Tasty, cheap and quicker than delivery. Survey says…bing!

For back-up, or in case you guys have a serious case of the late night munchies, the new 5 Cheese Frusta looks killer for tackling appetites and coating tummies after a night of drinking.

More info here for Sukiyaki: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/sukiyaki

More info here for 5 Cheese Frusta: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/5-cheese-frusta

3: French Vanilla Coffee

This might not be your new favorite coffee, but I guarantee it will smell like 8 shades of awesome while you’re brewing it.

The fact it, you can’t go wrong with Starbucks, Blue Bottle or Stumptown. But our schedules are busy and we often don’t have time to hit more than 1 market.

When it comes to our 5 senses, the most under-rated for dating is smell. And a killer date move is to wake them up to the smell of fresh brewed coffee. (Here’s a #DateTipTuesdays on the subject: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s19S9sVh

I also like to see couples try new things together. If you both love something, perfect, you can keep on loving it together. If you don’t, perfect, you can look forward to trying something else together.

Plus, with French Vanilla Coffee, it perfectly pairs with ice cream and dessert. The caffeine might keep you up awhile. But considering you have a date over for dessert, chances are, you won’t be going to sleep any time soon ☺.

More info here for French Vanilla Coffee: http://www.traderjoes.com/digin/post/french-vanilla-coffee

For “What Men Really Want on the 1st Date read here: http://tmblr.co/Zc4T9s18NwCDc)

6Medium, Tips, Food, Drinks, Refrigerator, Dating, Relationships,

Fridge Analysis


  Stonehill,
  
  Can you review my fridge? Your site is awesome!
  
  -Caitlyn


Stonehill Analysis

Hey Caitlyn,

Opening Day was last week, one of my fave times of year.  Because if you have to boil it down to one word, it’s this: potential.

Potential has encapsulated Opening Day for over a century.  And on Opening Day, every team has the potential to be champions.  Of course, by August, reality sets in, but in early April, every team has dreams of grandeur.

When it comes to dating, I find ‘potential’ to be equally relevant.  The potential to have something is often more important than actually having it.  We won’t get everything we want, but knowing we have a chance is enough to keep us going.

Now, when I look at your fridge, that’s what I see: potential.  I can’t say you’re a fit for every dude out there, nor does your fridge give me the fuzzy wuzzies.  But I do see enough positives (with few negatives) to conclude you’re worth going to bat for.

As there’s not much to work with, lets break down your fridge into 2 camps: Hope and Nope…

Camp Hope

•   This is one of the healthier fridges I’ve seen.  It’s not bursting with nutrients, but you have a healthy harem with zip-dip on the junk-food front.   Fruits and Veggies are aplenty, gourmet all-natural ice tea is top shelf, and the Silk and Almond Milks are in I-formation.  What does this all mean?  Probably one tight tush.

•   You got nibbles, if needed, for post-slap n’ tickle time.  (String cheese and burritos is by no means a grand slam, but it’ll do).   I can’t say this is why you bought them, but I like to see singles prepared.

•   You’re big on breakfast and a tasty home-cooked one is a master move.  You’re chock full of eggs, yogurt, Thomas’ English Muffins (the only brand, in my book) and with 2 milks, I have to assume 1 is for coffee and 1 for cereal.

•   Your condiment lineup of ketchup, hot sauce, etc., tells me you either binge on beef, or at the very least, cater to the carnivores in your life.

•   You’re environmentally conscious: Brita is your source of water when home, and you’re not chucking plastic.

•   You have a nice fridge model, with digital temp control and humidity drawers: a good sign you have a productive career.

Camp Nope

•   No booze, a tragedy in my book.  This isn’t a tell-all you don’t drink, but normally I’d see a sign.  Hopefully if you (or your date) drink, you keep your stash outside the fridge.

•   This fridge ain’t guy friendly.  It’s a good move to keep a six-pack of beer on hand, whether for a date or a guest.  It won’t spoil anytime soon and keeps you date-ready.  You can’t go wrong with Stella or Newcastle.

As I stated above, more positives than negatives, thus plenty of potential.  So best of luck this dating season.  Come August, I hope you’re still in it to win it.

Fridge Dating Scorecard  (on scale of 1 to 10)

Shag on first date: 4
The fact that you’re actively dating and putting a fab foot forward on the healthy front tells me you’re open to Saucy Town.

The fact that you have no booze visible tells me he probably won’t round the bases on date 1.  I do like that you have hummus and pita, a great shareable date food.  You just need to provide a bit more backup.

Marry: 6
I don’t get a ton of insight from your fridge, so it’s hard for me to say.  Most of your brands are hard to see, though Silk’s demo is college educated upscale healthy lifestyle, which provides a clue there.  Again, with you I see potential, but not enough to declare a slam-dunk.

Putting your best foot forward on the physical front, plus a productive career is enough to up your score above average.

Boil your Bunny: 1
I just don’t see bunny boiler bait.    Your fridge is clean and organized.  You don’t hoard and I don’t see signs of obsession.  Plus, you don’t have shit here to fuel a stakeout.  All signs point to a chick who’s healthy headed.
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Fridge Analysis


  Stonehill,
  
  Can you review my fridge? Your site is awesome!
  
  -Caitlyn


Stonehill Analysis

Hey Caitlyn,

Opening Day was last week, one of my fave times of year.  Because if you have to boil it down to one word, it’s this: potential.

Potential has encapsulated Opening Day for over a century.  And on Opening Day, every team has the potential to be champions.  Of course, by August, reality sets in, but in early April, every team has dreams of grandeur.

When it comes to dating, I find ‘potential’ to be equally relevant.  The potential to have something is often more important than actually having it.  We won’t get everything we want, but knowing we have a chance is enough to keep us going.

Now, when I look at your fridge, that’s what I see: potential.  I can’t say you’re a fit for every dude out there, nor does your fridge give me the fuzzy wuzzies.  But I do see enough positives (with few negatives) to conclude you’re worth going to bat for.

As there’s not much to work with, lets break down your fridge into 2 camps: Hope and Nope…

Camp Hope

•   This is one of the healthier fridges I’ve seen.  It’s not bursting with nutrients, but you have a healthy harem with zip-dip on the junk-food front.   Fruits and Veggies are aplenty, gourmet all-natural ice tea is top shelf, and the Silk and Almond Milks are in I-formation.  What does this all mean?  Probably one tight tush.

•   You got nibbles, if needed, for post-slap n’ tickle time.  (String cheese and burritos is by no means a grand slam, but it’ll do).   I can’t say this is why you bought them, but I like to see singles prepared.

•   You’re big on breakfast and a tasty home-cooked one is a master move.  You’re chock full of eggs, yogurt, Thomas’ English Muffins (the only brand, in my book) and with 2 milks, I have to assume 1 is for coffee and 1 for cereal.

•   Your condiment lineup of ketchup, hot sauce, etc., tells me you either binge on beef, or at the very least, cater to the carnivores in your life.

•   You’re environmentally conscious: Brita is your source of water when home, and you’re not chucking plastic.

•   You have a nice fridge model, with digital temp control and humidity drawers: a good sign you have a productive career.

Camp Nope

•   No booze, a tragedy in my book.  This isn’t a tell-all you don’t drink, but normally I’d see a sign.  Hopefully if you (or your date) drink, you keep your stash outside the fridge.

•   This fridge ain’t guy friendly.  It’s a good move to keep a six-pack of beer on hand, whether for a date or a guest.  It won’t spoil anytime soon and keeps you date-ready.  You can’t go wrong with Stella or Newcastle.

As I stated above, more positives than negatives, thus plenty of potential.  So best of luck this dating season.  Come August, I hope you’re still in it to win it.

Fridge Dating Scorecard  (on scale of 1 to 10)

Shag on first date: 4
The fact that you’re actively dating and putting a fab foot forward on the healthy front tells me you’re open to Saucy Town.

The fact that you have no booze visible tells me he probably won’t round the bases on date 1.  I do like that you have hummus and pita, a great shareable date food.  You just need to provide a bit more backup.

Marry: 6
I don’t get a ton of insight from your fridge, so it’s hard for me to say.  Most of your brands are hard to see, though Silk’s demo is college educated upscale healthy lifestyle, which provides a clue there.  Again, with you I see potential, but not enough to declare a slam-dunk.

Putting your best foot forward on the physical front, plus a productive career is enough to up your score above average.

Boil your Bunny: 1
I just don’t see bunny boiler bait.    Your fridge is clean and organized.  You don’t hoard and I don’t see signs of obsession.  Plus, you don’t have shit here to fuel a stakeout.  All signs point to a chick who’s healthy headed.
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Fridge Analysis

Stonehill,

Can you review my fridge? Your site is awesome!

-Caitlyn

Stonehill Analysis

Hey Caitlyn,

Opening Day was last week, one of my fave times of year. Because if you have to boil it down to one word, it’s this: potential.

Potential has encapsulated Opening Day for over a century. And on Opening Day, every team has the potential to be champions. Of course, by August, reality sets in, but in early April, every team has dreams of grandeur.

When it comes to dating, I find ‘potential’ to be equally relevant. The potential to have something is often more important than actually having it. We won’t get everything we want, but knowing we have a chance is enough to keep us going.

Now, when I look at your fridge, that’s what I see: potential. I can’t say you’re a fit for every dude out there, nor does your fridge give me the fuzzy wuzzies. But I do see enough positives (with few negatives) to conclude you’re worth going to bat for.

As there’s not much to work with, lets break down your fridge into 2 camps: Hope and Nope…

Camp Hope

• This is one of the healthier fridges I’ve seen. It’s not bursting with nutrients, but you have a healthy harem with zip-dip on the junk-food front. Fruits and Veggies are aplenty, gourmet all-natural ice tea is top shelf, and the Silk and Almond Milks are in I-formation. What does this all mean? Probably one tight tush.

• You got nibbles, if needed, for post-slap n’ tickle time. (String cheese and burritos is by no means a grand slam, but it’ll do). I can’t say this is why you bought them, but I like to see singles prepared.

• You’re big on breakfast and a tasty home-cooked one is a master move. You’re chock full of eggs, yogurt, Thomas’ English Muffins (the only brand, in my book) and with 2 milks, I have to assume 1 is for coffee and 1 for cereal.

• Your condiment lineup of ketchup, hot sauce, etc., tells me you either binge on beef, or at the very least, cater to the carnivores in your life.

• You’re environmentally conscious: Brita is your source of water when home, and you’re not chucking plastic.

• You have a nice fridge model, with digital temp control and humidity drawers: a good sign you have a productive career.

Camp Nope

• No booze, a tragedy in my book. This isn’t a tell-all you don’t drink, but normally I’d see a sign. Hopefully if you (or your date) drink, you keep your stash outside the fridge.

• This fridge ain’t guy friendly. It’s a good move to keep a six-pack of beer on hand, whether for a date or a guest. It won’t spoil anytime soon and keeps you date-ready. You can’t go wrong with Stella or Newcastle.

As I stated above, more positives than negatives, thus plenty of potential. So best of luck this dating season. Come August, I hope you’re still in it to win it.

Fridge Dating Scorecard (on scale of 1 to 10)

Shag on first date: 4
The fact that you’re actively dating and putting a fab foot forward on the healthy front tells me you’re open to Saucy Town.

The fact that you have no booze visible tells me he probably won’t round the bases on date 1. I do like that you have hummus and pita, a great shareable date food. You just need to provide a bit more backup.

Marry: 6
I don’t get a ton of insight from your fridge, so it’s hard for me to say. Most of your brands are hard to see, though Silk’s demo is college educated upscale healthy lifestyle, which provides a clue there. Again, with you I see potential, but not enough to declare a slam-dunk.

Putting your best foot forward on the physical front, plus a productive career is enough to up your score above average.

Boil your Bunny: 1
I just don’t see bunny boiler bait. Your fridge is clean and organized. You don’t hoard and I don’t see signs of obsession. Plus, you don’t have shit here to fuel a stakeout. All signs point to a chick who’s healthy headed.

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Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge

Accept your insecurities.

It’s no secret, we’re all insecure. You, me, our favorite movie stars. (Who are the most insecure, in fact)

The more you accept your feelings, the more you’ll be in the moment and the less you’ll be in your head. No matter how confident your date looks across the table, they have insecurities as well.

It’s universal. Some have to a higher degree than others, but the most insecure people I know are the ones who try to resist what they’re feeling rather than accept it.

Again, insecurities will never go away, but if you accept your feelings, they won’t dominate. Look at Annie Hall. (Great date flick, if you never saw it) She constantly verbalized her self-doubt and quirks, and she was one of the most beloved characters of all time.

Now, I’m not saying you should provide running commentary on your self-doubts on a date. Just know they’re there and know you’re not alone. You’re part of the human experience.

So when it comes to dating, always accept your feelings (and yourself, for that matter). That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stive to more fully understand where your feelings are coming from. A good therapist can be invaluable on this front. But fighting them is not the way to do it.

Accept you today. While striving to improve for tomorrow.

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Stonehill’s Inbox

Here are some of my favorite submissions from the past week…

Stonehill,

I’m shacking up with a cute fridge, but I know he’s not the one. Are you a believer in guilt free sex? My girls tell me I’m wasting my time, but I have nothing else going on anyway. (And the guy’s got skills ☺)

What are your thoughts?

-Missy

Missy,

We’ve evolved over millions of years to want one thing: sex. That’s just reality. (And biology) If you found someone you enjoy shacking up with, I think it’s great. As long as you accept it for what it is: sex.

I’ve met countless girls who talked about how they didn’t want anything more from the guy they were shagging, but deep down inside, they wanted something more.

And it inevitably ends up as a disaster for two reasons… 1, they end up heart-broken. 2, they waste all that time by not looking for a guy who actually has a chance of being the one.

If you want marriage and a couple of little coolers in your future, just be honest with yourself. This guy is not leading you on, so don’t expect more and act like a victim later.

If truly don’t want anything more than sex from this guy, and you’re truly capable of putting of your best effort into finding the one (even though you have the comfort of a lover in your life), enjoy.


Stonehill,

Love how spot on you are. Is it from years of practice or is there a metric we can all use?

Cheers,

-Jenn

Hey Jenn,

Thanks for the kudos. It’s a bit of both. As I always say, a fridge by no means provides the full picture of someone, but you can pick up some fun clues and insight.

Yes, I have been checking fridges for over 20 years. (And practice might not make perfect on this front, but it sure helps) Plus, I oversee Sales and Biz Dev for a men’s lifestyle publication.

Thus, it’s been my job for years to understand a brand’s target demo and media plan. So when I see a brand in someone’s fridge, I see clues into their demo, the publications they read, even the shows they watch.

Nothing is definitive, but the more concentric circles you can draw and the more those circles overlap, the higher the odds are that you can nail down some solid insight into the fridge owner.

We’re all dating detectives. i just find one’s fridge to offer the most clues if you know what to look for.


Please keep submitting your fridges, comments and dating adventures!

stonehill@checktheirfridge.com

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News1130 Part 2

Here’s Part 2 of my guest appearance on the News1130, Vancouver’s largest radio newsroom.

I had a blast analysing the fridge of Reaon Ford and working with producer Mike Lloyd. Thanks again to the entire News1130 team!

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News1130 Part 1

Here’s Part 1 of my guest appearance on the News1130, Vancouver’s largest radio newsroom.

I had a blast analysing the fridge of Reaon Ford and working with producer Mike Lloyd. Thanks again to the entire News1130 team!

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