Fridge Post #39
The reasons I’m interested to hear your analogy is because much like other aspects of my “dating life” there seems to be a pattern.
The guy I just recently started going out with, and it didn’t begin with him, every time he comes over, once initial pleasantries are exchanged and brief small talk has ensued, he goes straight to my kitchen and without even asking opens my fridge/freezer and stands there inspecting the contents. Let me add that I’m a relatively well-versed girl in the area of hospitality and always ask any guest if they would like something to drink, etc. upon their arrival to my home.
When I ask him what he’s looking for he says “Oh, nothing. Just looking.” On a side note, we met in late November and see each other an average of twice a week and have not solidified a “full on intimate” relationship as of yet.
I find it interesting behavior as first of all I wouldn’t go into his or anyone except maybe a relative’s or best friend’s house and open their fridge without at least asking. I’m not put off by it, just curious about both his motivation and possible thoughts about me, us, whatever… And for my own sake, I wanna know what my Fridgedaire is saying to others!
He is not by any stretch my “boyfriend,” as I mentioned previously, it’s all really recent stuff. When I was discussing it with friends, as to whether it seemed rude, or what, one of them said it was a “sign of intimacy and comfortableness” and then they mentioned your site, which I obviously visited, and here we are now :)
This was probably way more info than you bargained for however I am totally intrigued by the reasons behind the behavior and the impression the contents and order of my fridge/freezer are giving.
Thanks for the background! I think your dude feels what I (and many of us feel) when checking someone’s fridge. At first it might be instinctual, but it truly does give a feel for the person and a roadmap of what it’d be like to hang out at their pad in the future.
Now why you’ve been hanging out with this guy since November and haven’t done the deed is TBD, but it’s been way too long to still be in the Patty Cake phase.
Lets check your fridge, and see what it tells us…
Right off the bat, you make an effort to be healthy. Which brings up the classic formula: healthy diet + exercise = one saucy set. (And evidence your non-boyfriend boyfriend is either not interested, has no game or has an epic case of blue balls)
Sharing a common lifestyle is important when it comes to dating, and your fridge says you eat well and exercise. You have veggies and enough Silk on hand for healthy cereals, bevs and half your neighborhood’s stray cats.
You’re buying organic, like Amy’s, eggs and Matt’s OJ, which tells me you’re willing to spend more on the health (and environment) front, plus you have enough bottled water for those on-the-go workouts. If bottled water were your primary source of water at home, I’d assume you’d buy larger containers.
Now, you’re also a brand person. You’re willing to pay a premium to ensure quality. If you’re brand conscious in your fridge, you probably are in other aspects of your life.
There’s a match out there for everyone, but I’ve seen couples that didn’t mesh cause of differing spending habits. My feeling is if you can’t afford the extra 80 cents for Heinz, move back in with your parents.
One more ‘feel’ I get about you is this: Sheena was Queen of the Dessert…you’re the Queen of Breakfast. And I love it.
Nothing says more ‘Weekend’ to me than coffee and the paper in bed, pancakes, eggs and omelets. And you got it all, including pure maple syrup, rather than that Log Cabin shit.
Pure maple syrup costs way more and tastes way better, which again, reflects your personality. I did notice that both syrups are open, yet neither are finished. Perhaps you have a habit of moving onto what’s new without finishing what’s now. (Just a possibility)
Now, as I touched on earlier, much of these fridge observations are instinctual. We get a feel. And I can see why your dude keep eying yours…
You’re nourishing, without being desperate. You’re organized without being anal. You’re cute without making me wanna puke. I mean, you have frosted mugs in your freezer and a whole collection of magnets to entertain on the fridge door.
Are you meant to be with this guy? No clue. But from what I see, he’d be missing out if he didn’t get to know you better. (Starting with some overdue rogering, of course ☺)
Fridge Dating Scorecard (on scale of 1 to 10)
Shag on first date: 2
This is a tough one. By the contents of your fridge, many signs point to Titillation Town. You have beers mugs on standby, munchies at the ready and the perfect breakfast to whip up come morning.
But, the industry standard for shagging is 3-4 dates. And you’re already knocking on 2 seasons, here. That’s a stat I can’t ignore. I do believe a guy should have the balls to make the first move. But it also takes 2 to Tango. And you should have Tangoed the shit out of him by now.
I see major assets here. You’re cool, fun, healthy and have it together, all wrapped up in, what I’d like to assume, is a tight package.
But when you say pattern, I’m not sure if you’re saying the common thread is they check your fridge, or that in addition, your relationships stay casual and non-sexual.
Whatever you want out of your relationships, you need to dictate that to the men you’re dating. The ability to communicate one’s needs in a relationship is vital.
After a couple of months, the Test Drive phase is over. If you want the kind of intimate relationship that, if working, eventually leads to marriage, that’s what you should have.
See my Date Tip here on how to tell him: http://tinyurl.com/lj4hsor
Boil your Bunny: 2
Though I see you have the condiments needed to grill animals, I don’t see any evidence that you boil furry ones. You truly seem to be a well-grounded chica.