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Here are some of my favorite submissions of the past week: tune in this week for the fridge breakdowns!



I’m back in the online dating game. I’ve just been too busy with work and haven’t met anyone lately.

Here’s the fridge of Katie. We just spoke on the phone, had a good convo and I asked her to send me a pic of her fridge. She laughed her ass off when I told her about your blog and sent me the attached.

What do you think? Should I take her out???



Unless this girl’s fridge is a freak of nature, you’re in a place right now where you should go out with her, along with everyone you can. Dating is like a muscle and you have to exercise it. If you don’t, you’ll treat every date that comes along as a bigger deal than you should and your dates will smell that, not a good smell.

That said, the more you know about her, the better. Lets dive in and see what her fridge tells us….

Tune in Wednesday for the Fridge Analysis!


I know this is not fridge related, but I had a girlfriend advise me recently to not return a guy’s texts or calls and quoted The Rules that it’s a girl’s job to keep a guy chasing them…thoughts?



When I read The Rules a zillion years ago (Warner Books, 1995), I was like WTF. Here’s a best-selling book that’s telling a whole generation of women to ‘rarely return his calls’. What does that mean? Only go out with stalkers??

If I called a girl and she didn’t return my call, maybe and I mean, maybe I’d shoot her an email or text just to make sure the message got through. If I didn’t hear back from there, I was out for sure.

Why wouldn’t I be? She made clear that she wasn’t interested. And that’s fine. I’d rather know than to waste time on the wrong person.

Dating is like Sales and the most valuable lesson I learned in Sales was this: Get to the ‘no’. Meaning if a prospect was dead, move on and don’t waste time.

Half of my friends are women and every one of them would be skeeved by a guy who kept trying to contact them after they made clear they weren’t interested by not responding.

If you’re interested, call the freakin’ dude back.


This week, I’ll be featured on ABC 7 in NY with reporter Kemberly Richardson (@kemrichardson7) and on The Bender with host Ben Harvey (@djbenharvey) on Sirius.

Stay tuned for exact dates and times!

Please keep submitting your fridges, comments and dating adventures!

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