Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge
Don’t just give them a gift. Give them an experience.
When you’re dating someone, you’re not their mommy or daddy, so forget the clothing, gift card and pendant. You’re their lover, or on the path to be. (If you’re not on the path, your instincts are correct: you’re not really dating them)
So when it comes to a gift this holiday season, give them something you can enjoy together. Yes, it should be something they love, but when it comes to building a relationship, part of that process is building a collection of experiences. So add fuel to your fire.
Now, for what gift to choose, here’s my advice: don’t spend more than $10 per week you’ve been dating. If you do, your gift might look like it’s coming from the land of Trying Too Hard.
Here are a few Stonehill holiday gift suggestions:
An Album such as Charlie Brown Christmas. The Vince Giraldi Trio is my all time favorite Christmas album, and yes, I’m a Jew who loves Christmas. When it comes to dating, it’s always nice to have a song or two. Whatever you give can be your holiday song moving forward.
And as sex is hottest at the beginning of a relationship, this album can be your Pavlov’s dog for sauciness when the holidays roll around again. Just ding the bell (AKA, play this album) and they’ll come drooling.
Sign up both of you for a class in something they love. Again, this is about them, so whether it’s wine appreciation, salsa dancing, gourmet cooking or race-car driving, be sure it’s a class for them. The fact that you’re experiencing it together makes it all the more special.
2 orchestra tickets to a Broadway show or concert they’ve been dying to see. First off, they’ll shag your brains out. (And that never sucks) And second, we remember the Broadway shows and concerts we see for the rest of our lives. It’s a great move to be a part of that.
A weekend getaway that requires getting on a plane. Again, be sure the activities involved are about your special someone. If you love them too, all the better, but be sure a dream of theirs is fulfilled first.
If he’s been dying to learn how to SCUBA, book a weekend in Puerto Vallarta and pre-plan a certification for him once you get there. It shows you’re making it about him, rather than just booking a vacation.
If she loves wine, book that weekend up in Sonoma and reserve a private tasting with the winemaker at a vineyard she’s yet to visit. Plus sign her up for their wine club, so it’s the gift that keeps on giving.
Considering it’s probably been over a year since your last trek south of their equator, an oral expedition would cover it.