Check their Fridge

A Dating Guide

Prologue: Winter 1998

We’ve all been there: on a date when we get that first invitation back to their apartment. Considering I made out with Haley in the street on our last date, one thing was certain: tonight I was going to see her topless.

Factoring that in with her preppy looks, her Princeton education and her Jewish background, I guesstimated that I had a 50% chance of sex-sex and a 40% chance of something even more personal to women than sex-sex: oral sex ... Read More

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Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge

Drop the Pick-Up Lines

Lets face it…pick-up lines can look cool in movies, but in the real world, you just look like a douche.

Take Top Gun. When Mav and Goose ran their “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling” game, it was magic. Whether it was movie magic or Scientology magic, I don’t know, but I’ve seen a few guys run it since and you know what they looked like? You guessed it, douches.

What pick-up lines tell me is that the dudes using them feel like they’re not good enough, so they have to do something magical to cross the goal line. They’re making something out to be much harder than it is.

I was great at meeting girls. I‘m not saying they all wanted to bang me and I’m not saying we always connected, but I used one line and it always worked: ”Hi, I’m John”. As long as I wasn’t rude, it worked every time.

When I say worked, I mean that I got to break the ice and meet them. And that’s all you need to kick things off. From there, you can see if there’s a connection and attraction. If not, no love lost. Just introducing myself was enough to get the job done.

When it comes to meeting girls, your goal shouldn’t be to get laid. It should be to see if there’s a vibe and if so, get digits. That’s it. And the irony? The more you focus on that, the more you end up getting laid in the long run.

Now, are there guys who run their ‘game’ and get laid? Of course. But A, they’re working way harder than they need to and B, they’re dicks. The reality is, it’s not hard to get laid. We’re wired that way. (Tune in to next week’s #DateTipTuesday, ‘Time to take sex off the pedestal”)

So drop the fireworks, drop the bullshit and just introduce yourself. If the connection is there, you’ll be in Saucy Town soon enough.

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Dating Ammo

Welcome to CTF’s Dating Ammo.

Lets face it…most of our dates revolve around eating and drinking.

So here’s where we’ll talk about foods and drinks that can be a great asset for your next date.

Now that it’s summertime, or as I like to call it ‘Mating Season’, there’s tons of foods and wines that are tailor-made for the warmer weather.

One product that caught my eye is Frey Wines. They have solid whites that are perfect for summer, including a Sauvignon Blanc and Chardonnay, you can grab’m at Whole Foods so it’s convenient, they’re inexpensive at around $15 per bottle and Frey Vineyards is our nation’s first certified organic winery.

And in case you didn’t get the memo, the ladies love organic. It’s good for the environment, it’s good for local businesses and there are a plethora of health benefits that come with it.

So whether to take on a hike, to a summer outdoor movie screening or just on your couch for some quality afternoon chit-chat, a Frey white can be solid ammo for your next date.

More info here for Frey Wines: http://www.freywine.com/index.html


On the docket this week…

Stay tuned for our first Medicine Cabinet analysis.

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Stonehill’s Inbox

Here are some of my favorite submissions from the past week…

Stonehill,

Love your blog, man. I always checked a girl’s medicine cabinet, felt like that was the perfect gauge.

I know you’re the fridge master, but can you analyze this medicine cabinet for me??

Cheers!

-Corey

Hey Corey,

They say eyes are the windows to their soul.

Well, a medicine cabinet can be the window to their sanity.

The fact is, we’re all dating detectives and we all have our methods to analyze a prospect. I’ve always felt like a fridge is the most revealing, but a medicine cabinet is a very close second.

The tricky thing can be most medicine cabinets are harder to access than a fridge. By no means are we talking Mission Impossible here, but if they have more than one bathroom, you’ll most likely need to pass the slap & tickle phase of the relationship to gain entry to their med cab.

As you’ve already done the heavy lifting here, I’m in. Check Their Fridge is about finding and analyzing clues, which reveal probable truths about a person. (For example, a logical guess would be your Canadian, as ‘cheers’ is a more popular adieu up there)

This’ll be fun, stay tuned for our first Medicine Cabinet analysis next week!


Stonehill,

I like this guy, and there’s a mutual attraction. (And yes, his fridge ain’t shabby either ☺)

How long do you think a girl should wait to have sex?

Thanks!

-Linda

Hey Linda,

Along with ‘Where do we come from?’, the question of how long til sex is as old as Mankind.

And there is no right and wrong answer, just what’s right and wrong for you. The fact is, I’ve seen just as many relationships succeed after shagging on the first date as I have from girls making the guy wait a month.

Do I think shagging a guy on the first date is the best strategy? No, frankly I don’t. Even if it’s the 2nd or 3rd date (which is industry standard), I’d make him wait a bit. The key for you is to have sex when you want to have sex. It’s about you, not him and if you want it, go for it.

I’ve heard way too many women talk about when to have sex like it’s for the guy and the impression they’re making. I say screw that. It’s about you and what you’re comfortable with. If he has a problem with that, he’s a dick and tell him to piss off.


Stonehll,

I met this guy and he’s a good deal overweight. He’s hilarious and I have a good time with him, but I’m not attracted to him.

I didn’t get a pic of his fridge, but I have a photographic memory and can send you a detailed list if that helps.

Can you still analyze?

-Amy

Hey Amy,

I usually require a fridge pic, but this is a topic that interests me, so send the list if that’s all you have. (And as I’m obsessed with photographic memories, any description of condition, cleanliness and organization would help)

What I can say for now is personality is the most importantly quality when dating, but you absolutely need an attraction first.

Now, I don’t know how big this dude is, and I’m curious if it’s from overeating or from a condition. But you know what I find attractive about obese dudes? Nothing.

If you’re obese from over-eating, not a health condition and it’s to the point that you’re risking your health, that’s a problem. I’m not talking looks, I’m talking health and with obesity comes heart disease, diabetes and a host of other life-threatening issues. That will impact not only his life, but also his partner’s.

I love McDonald’s. I love meatball pizza, steaks, lasagna, BBQ, beer, bourbon, Chinese food and more. But everything in moderation.

I can go on, but I’ll moderate myself for now. Shoot me that list and I’ll dive in with my analysis.


Please keep submitting your fridges, comments and dating adventures!

stonehill@checktheirfridge.com

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Throwback Thurs

Time for another edition of #Throwback Thursday. Today is a throwback to our first gay fridge analysis. Enjoy!

Stonehill,

This is my friend Ben. Like me, he’s gay and single. Looking at his fridge, I told him he needs serious help.

Back me up, Stonehill.

-Trent

Stonehill Analysis

It might not be fair, but at times we’re held up to higher standards than others. We’ve all been there at some point. And when it comes to fridges, I’m starting here. Cause looking at CTF’s first gay fridge, I’m seriously disappointed.

I expect more. I’m sorry, I do. And I mean that as a complement to my gay brothers. Gay men are today’s pioneers. The Pilgrims, the Israelis, Utah, they can’t hold a candle to you. You’re fighting for equality. You’re shaping policy. You’re transforming neighborhoods.

Gay men are the dung beetles of real estate. If you want to make money, I’ve always said buy where your gay friends are moving. Economic fact. Within a decade, your value will triple. If you think I’m wrong, try South Beach, West Village, Chelsea, Castro, Uptown and West Hollywood on for size.

So yes, there’s a lot of pressure here, and I had high expectations for Ben’s fridge. And you bring me this???

I can’t give you much as it has less on its shelves than Ralph’s during the LA riots. Here are a few guesses:

• Ben just got back from a long trip and needs to restock. (Though I doubt it, as there’d still be more evidence that civilization existed here before he left)

• He might be ‘single’, but he’s spending most of his time at a lover’s or with family going through a crisis.

• He’s in between jobs. He’s clearly done well with work as he bought one fancy fridge, but he’s not stocking it with the love this fridge deserves.

• He’s a coffee drinker, and brews it at home.

• He likes beer. (He’s got more than one brand and he sure as hell ain’t entertaining)

• He’s lactose tolerant.

• He likes dessert or getting high from Nitrous Oxide.

That’s about it.

Now, when it comes to dating, Ben doesn’t seem to be in a great place. If I were to set him up, I’d warn his date that it’s a Bang and Bolt scenario at best.

I’m usually jealous of my gay friends. They’re in better shape. They’re more stylish. And they don’t have to live with women.

But when it comes Ben, my jealousy gives way to sympathy. Happy Town just might be a mirage for him right now. So, hang in there, Ben. And take solace that you have friends like Trent looking out for you.

Fridge Dating Scorecard

Bang on first date: 4
With the possible struggles going on in his life, he can use some TLC. I’m just afraid what those struggles are. It’s hard to bang someone that you simultaneously feel sorry for.

Marry: In a blue state 2. In a red state, NA.
They say these are the most stressful experiences in one’s life:

• Changing Jobs

• Moving

• Giving birth

• Death

This guy might have 3 of 4 covered. Not the place to be pledging one’s life to another.

Sleeping with the Enemy: 7
I don’t have much to work on, but this guy is obviously out of the house most of the time. Whether it’s for stalking, I don’t know, but it does raise a red flag.

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#DateTipTuesdays

Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge

Appreciate What You Have

When I got married in Africa a couple of years ago, I attended the local soccer match of the residents on Benguerra Island off the coast of Mozambique.

While there, I saw these African boys play with a car made from a milk carton, two Coke cans cut in half to make four wheels and a stick to push it.  And it was the envy of all the kids.

I came across this picture of the boys the other day, and they’ve been on my mind ever since.

It reminded me to appreciate what you have.  The same could be said for dating.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t want other things and work towards getting them.  But if you can’t appreciate what you already have, you’ll never be happy.  Never.

We can all relate to the grass being greener.  There’s always going to be someone with a better looking spouse, a nicer car and a bigger house.  But it’s a choice to let that get you down.  Again, it’s natural to want more than what we have and work towards getting it. But insatiable people are miserable people.

I’ve seen many relationships where a person wasn’t happy no matter what they had.  And those relationship never worked.  Cause their view of happiness was always measured by having something that they didn’t have yet.  And once they did have it, they didn’t appreciate it anymore.

So whether single, dating or married, try to appreciate what you do have.  You’ll be happier (which is necessary in a successful relationship), and as you get more of the things you want along the way, you’ll appreciate and enjoy them even more.
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#DateTipTuesdays

Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge

Appreciate What You Have

When I got married in Africa a couple of years ago, I attended the local soccer match of the residents on Benguerra Island off the coast of Mozambique.

While there, I saw these African boys play with a car made from a milk carton, two Coke cans cut in half to make four wheels and a stick to push it. And it was the envy of all the kids.

I came across this picture of the boys the other day, and they’ve been on my mind ever since.

It reminded me to appreciate what you have. The same could be said for dating.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t want other things and work towards getting them. But if you can’t appreciate what you already have, you’ll never be happy. Never.

We can all relate to the grass being greener. There’s always going to be someone with a better looking spouse, a nicer car and a bigger house. But it’s a choice to let that get you down. Again, it’s natural to want more than what we have and work towards getting it. But insatiable people are miserable people.

I’ve seen many relationships where a person wasn’t happy no matter what they had. And those relationship never worked. Cause their view of happiness was always measured by having something that they didn’t have yet. And once they did have it, they didn’t appreciate it anymore.

So whether single, dating or married, try to appreciate what you do have. You’ll be happier (which is necessary in a successful relationship), and as you get more of the things you want along the way, you’ll appreciate and enjoy them even more.

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Fridge Analysis


  While in the UK, I met with Vicky, the online editor of TNT Magazine, who wanted to know what her fridge revealed about her dating life.
  
  In one word, plenty…


Stonehill Analysis

When we hit it off with members of the opposite sex, there are two roads it can lead: Saucy Town and the Friendship Tip.

As we’ve all visited both camps, we all know that both have led to wonderful relationships.  Yes, When Harry Met Sally is one of my all-time fave flicks, but I truly believe men and women can be friends.

I make this point as we’ll be friends with a much higher percentage of people we meet than those we get intimate with.  When I look at Vicky’s fridge, if we were both single, that’s what I see…us as bosom buddies, but nothing more.

Why?  It’s a good bet she’s a vegetarian whereas I don’t think I’ve had a meal in my life that didn’t have one ingredient that was once living.  Dating is a team sport and compromise is required on many fronts in all relationships, but there are certain eating habits that are hard to mesh.

Pescatarian and carnivore, yes.  Vegetarian and the opposite of vegetarian, very tough.

Now, diving into Vicky’s fridge lets see what we can learn and map out a good match for her…

1. She has starter fridge

So there’s a good chance she’s starting out, or at least in the early part of career.  I say starter fridge, as it’s a counter model that doesn’t reach much higher than my kneecap.

As I assume Vicky is in the early part of her career, she’s probably in her 20’s.  Thus, a dude in his 20’s or early 30’s would be a good match.  (Unless she’s got daddy issues, then we can expand to a Downton Abby age differential, but that’s not the vibe I get)

2. Geographically desirable?

Sometimes it’s fun to find geo-hints of where a fridge owner lives.  For Vicky, it’s obvious she lives in the UK.  She’s got a Union Jack holding her strawberries, and as Britain is neither known as the spinach capital of the world, nor a place known for exporting Popeye’s favorite snack, her ‘British Spinach’ cements she’s in the motherland.

Every day, love does conquer all.  It’s what movies are made of.  But life’s not a movie and most successful relationships have the odds in their favor.  I bring this up as the odds are Vicky will end up with a dude living in the UK as well.  Long distance relationship can and do work, it’s just a tougher road.

3. Something’s cookin’

I see signs Vicky is a bit of a foodie, and likes to cook.  A good match doesn’t need to equal her culinary skills, but he does need to appreciate them.  I never met a chef who enjoyed cooking for an unappreciated customer.  Vicky has sundried tomatoes, not an item normally served on its own, and more often an ingredient.

She also has Madras paste along with Sweet Chutney, both primarily building blocks to a tasty dish.  A great Vicky dating move would invite him over for dinner, he brings the wine, and Vicky makes the meal.  There’s a reason we see this in endless romantic comedies…cause it works.

Now Vicky either bakes or loves breakfast, because if she had any more eggs, she’d be running a B&B.  With the vat of margarine, the chances she bakes goes up.  I love ladies who bake, it’s a nurturing quality, and as we all know, the best path to a man’s heart is through his stomach.   (If you don’t know the 2nd best path, email me)

4. Hectic schedule

Vicky’s life seems to be a bit chaotic at the moment.  Her fridge is by no means a disaster, and I don’t get the wackypack vibe from her, but it is a tad messy.  That, along with that schmutz collecting on the bottom tells me she’s not a neatfreak and her schedule has been demanding lately.

As Vicky is busy building a career, a good match for her will have to be supportive of that.  And of course, not a dude who’s immaculate.

5. Well-Rounded

Everything in moderation and Vicky is the epitome of this.

She truly is a diverse chica that doesn’t like to be pigeonholed…plenty of healthy food for a foxy figure and some fun junk food to blow off some steam.

As mom taught us, a healthy diet + exercise = 1 bodacious body.

Vicy’s got spinach, Soy milk, OJ (also good for when guys are over, we love OJ), fruits and veggies.  If you can’t put your best foot forward when you’re single, you’ll probably look even worse when you’re married.  Vicky is clearly making an effort.

I also like to see she has some date-ready items.  To assist her hosting duties, she has salsa, which is great to throw out with some chips, and pizza in case she and her dude have a case of the late night munchies.

Plus, she has milk…if it’s to brew coffee in the morning, that’s another smart move.  Smell is the most under-rated of the 5 senses on the dating front.  To wake up your date with the smell of breakfast and fresh brewed coffee is killer.  Vicky has all the tools to do so.

Final Thoughts

Nothing is 100% right and wrong when it comes to dating.  (Unless we’re talking Oscar Pictorious, of course)  Just what’s right and wrong for us.

Vicky clearly has a lot going for her, the question is who’s the best fit?

One thing to note is I don’t see any booze.  It might be kept elsewhere, but if you don’t drink, that’ll impact your dating as most dates revolve around eating and drinking.

It also appears Vicky has a cat.  Personally, I don’t mind them the way some people do.  She obviously won’t be a good fit with a cat-hater and overall, it’s important that she’s not the type who loves her pet more than her partner.

Overall, I get the vibe that Vicky is fun, with a sprinkle of cool, loving, nurturing and sassy, with just the right dash of crazy mixed in.

Fridge Dating Scorecard

Shag on first date: 4.5
Any girl who has zero booze in her fridge has a less than average shot of shagging on the 1st date.  This is not a positive or negative, it’s just booze has greased the rails to many memorable mistakes for generations.

Marry: 7
She has qualities that are great for a life partner.  She cooks and bakes, which shows a nurturing quality and a sense of domestication.  She also has some fun shareable food in there, and can play host, another positive.

Personally, I’d like to see some booze and beef in there, but as they said in Some Like it Hot, nobdy’s perfect ☺.

Sleeping with the Enemy: 3.5
With the schmtuz on the bottom shelf, it does raise her odds of crazy.  That along with her disheveled fridge door (and the fact that like Glenn Close, she has a cat) might not bring her up to red alert, but does bump her up the scale a bit.
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Fridge Analysis


  While in the UK, I met with Vicky, the online editor of TNT Magazine, who wanted to know what her fridge revealed about her dating life.
  
  In one word, plenty…


Stonehill Analysis

When we hit it off with members of the opposite sex, there are two roads it can lead: Saucy Town and the Friendship Tip.

As we’ve all visited both camps, we all know that both have led to wonderful relationships.  Yes, When Harry Met Sally is one of my all-time fave flicks, but I truly believe men and women can be friends.

I make this point as we’ll be friends with a much higher percentage of people we meet than those we get intimate with.  When I look at Vicky’s fridge, if we were both single, that’s what I see…us as bosom buddies, but nothing more.

Why?  It’s a good bet she’s a vegetarian whereas I don’t think I’ve had a meal in my life that didn’t have one ingredient that was once living.  Dating is a team sport and compromise is required on many fronts in all relationships, but there are certain eating habits that are hard to mesh.

Pescatarian and carnivore, yes.  Vegetarian and the opposite of vegetarian, very tough.

Now, diving into Vicky’s fridge lets see what we can learn and map out a good match for her…

1. She has starter fridge

So there’s a good chance she’s starting out, or at least in the early part of career.  I say starter fridge, as it’s a counter model that doesn’t reach much higher than my kneecap.

As I assume Vicky is in the early part of her career, she’s probably in her 20’s.  Thus, a dude in his 20’s or early 30’s would be a good match.  (Unless she’s got daddy issues, then we can expand to a Downton Abby age differential, but that’s not the vibe I get)

2. Geographically desirable?

Sometimes it’s fun to find geo-hints of where a fridge owner lives.  For Vicky, it’s obvious she lives in the UK.  She’s got a Union Jack holding her strawberries, and as Britain is neither known as the spinach capital of the world, nor a place known for exporting Popeye’s favorite snack, her ‘British Spinach’ cements she’s in the motherland.

Every day, love does conquer all.  It’s what movies are made of.  But life’s not a movie and most successful relationships have the odds in their favor.  I bring this up as the odds are Vicky will end up with a dude living in the UK as well.  Long distance relationship can and do work, it’s just a tougher road.

3. Something’s cookin’

I see signs Vicky is a bit of a foodie, and likes to cook.  A good match doesn’t need to equal her culinary skills, but he does need to appreciate them.  I never met a chef who enjoyed cooking for an unappreciated customer.  Vicky has sundried tomatoes, not an item normally served on its own, and more often an ingredient.

She also has Madras paste along with Sweet Chutney, both primarily building blocks to a tasty dish.  A great Vicky dating move would invite him over for dinner, he brings the wine, and Vicky makes the meal.  There’s a reason we see this in endless romantic comedies…cause it works.

Now Vicky either bakes or loves breakfast, because if she had any more eggs, she’d be running a B&B.  With the vat of margarine, the chances she bakes goes up.  I love ladies who bake, it’s a nurturing quality, and as we all know, the best path to a man’s heart is through his stomach.   (If you don’t know the 2nd best path, email me)

4. Hectic schedule

Vicky’s life seems to be a bit chaotic at the moment.  Her fridge is by no means a disaster, and I don’t get the wackypack vibe from her, but it is a tad messy.  That, along with that schmutz collecting on the bottom tells me she’s not a neatfreak and her schedule has been demanding lately.

As Vicky is busy building a career, a good match for her will have to be supportive of that.  And of course, not a dude who’s immaculate.

5. Well-Rounded

Everything in moderation and Vicky is the epitome of this.

She truly is a diverse chica that doesn’t like to be pigeonholed…plenty of healthy food for a foxy figure and some fun junk food to blow off some steam.

As mom taught us, a healthy diet + exercise = 1 bodacious body.

Vicy’s got spinach, Soy milk, OJ (also good for when guys are over, we love OJ), fruits and veggies.  If you can’t put your best foot forward when you’re single, you’ll probably look even worse when you’re married.  Vicky is clearly making an effort.

I also like to see she has some date-ready items.  To assist her hosting duties, she has salsa, which is great to throw out with some chips, and pizza in case she and her dude have a case of the late night munchies.

Plus, she has milk…if it’s to brew coffee in the morning, that’s another smart move.  Smell is the most under-rated of the 5 senses on the dating front.  To wake up your date with the smell of breakfast and fresh brewed coffee is killer.  Vicky has all the tools to do so.

Final Thoughts

Nothing is 100% right and wrong when it comes to dating.  (Unless we’re talking Oscar Pictorious, of course)  Just what’s right and wrong for us.

Vicky clearly has a lot going for her, the question is who’s the best fit?

One thing to note is I don’t see any booze.  It might be kept elsewhere, but if you don’t drink, that’ll impact your dating as most dates revolve around eating and drinking.

It also appears Vicky has a cat.  Personally, I don’t mind them the way some people do.  She obviously won’t be a good fit with a cat-hater and overall, it’s important that she’s not the type who loves her pet more than her partner.

Overall, I get the vibe that Vicky is fun, with a sprinkle of cool, loving, nurturing and sassy, with just the right dash of crazy mixed in.

Fridge Dating Scorecard

Shag on first date: 4.5
Any girl who has zero booze in her fridge has a less than average shot of shagging on the 1st date.  This is not a positive or negative, it’s just booze has greased the rails to many memorable mistakes for generations.

Marry: 7
She has qualities that are great for a life partner.  She cooks and bakes, which shows a nurturing quality and a sense of domestication.  She also has some fun shareable food in there, and can play host, another positive.

Personally, I’d like to see some booze and beef in there, but as they said in Some Like it Hot, nobdy’s perfect ☺.

Sleeping with the Enemy: 3.5
With the schmtuz on the bottom shelf, it does raise her odds of crazy.  That along with her disheveled fridge door (and the fact that like Glenn Close, she has a cat) might not bring her up to red alert, but does bump her up the scale a bit.
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Fridge Analysis

While in the UK, I met with Vicky, the online editor of TNT Magazine, who wanted to know what her fridge revealed about her dating life.

In one word, plenty…

Stonehill Analysis

When we hit it off with members of the opposite sex, there are two roads it can lead: Saucy Town and the Friendship Tip.

As we’ve all visited both camps, we all know that both have led to wonderful relationships. Yes, When Harry Met Sally is one of my all-time fave flicks, but I truly believe men and women can be friends.

I make this point as we’ll be friends with a much higher percentage of people we meet than those we get intimate with. When I look at Vicky’s fridge, if we were both single, that’s what I see…us as bosom buddies, but nothing more.

Why? It’s a good bet she’s a vegetarian whereas I don’t think I’ve had a meal in my life that didn’t have one ingredient that was once living. Dating is a team sport and compromise is required on many fronts in all relationships, but there are certain eating habits that are hard to mesh.

Pescatarian and carnivore, yes. Vegetarian and the opposite of vegetarian, very tough.

Now, diving into Vicky’s fridge lets see what we can learn and map out a good match for her…

1. She has starter fridge

So there’s a good chance she’s starting out, or at least in the early part of career. I say starter fridge, as it’s a counter model that doesn’t reach much higher than my kneecap.

As I assume Vicky is in the early part of her career, she’s probably in her 20’s. Thus, a dude in his 20’s or early 30’s would be a good match. (Unless she’s got daddy issues, then we can expand to a Downton Abby age differential, but that’s not the vibe I get)

2. Geographically desirable?

Sometimes it’s fun to find geo-hints of where a fridge owner lives. For Vicky, it’s obvious she lives in the UK. She’s got a Union Jack holding her strawberries, and as Britain is neither known as the spinach capital of the world, nor a place known for exporting Popeye’s favorite snack, her ‘British Spinach’ cements she’s in the motherland.

Every day, love does conquer all. It’s what movies are made of. But life’s not a movie and most successful relationships have the odds in their favor. I bring this up as the odds are Vicky will end up with a dude living in the UK as well. Long distance relationship can and do work, it’s just a tougher road.

3. Something’s cookin’

I see signs Vicky is a bit of a foodie, and likes to cook. A good match doesn’t need to equal her culinary skills, but he does need to appreciate them. I never met a chef who enjoyed cooking for an unappreciated customer. Vicky has sundried tomatoes, not an item normally served on its own, and more often an ingredient.

She also has Madras paste along with Sweet Chutney, both primarily building blocks to a tasty dish. A great Vicky dating move would invite him over for dinner, he brings the wine, and Vicky makes the meal. There’s a reason we see this in endless romantic comedies…cause it works.

Now Vicky either bakes or loves breakfast, because if she had any more eggs, she’d be running a B&B. With the vat of margarine, the chances she bakes goes up. I love ladies who bake, it’s a nurturing quality, and as we all know, the best path to a man’s heart is through his stomach. (If you don’t know the 2nd best path, email me)

4. Hectic schedule

Vicky’s life seems to be a bit chaotic at the moment. Her fridge is by no means a disaster, and I don’t get the wackypack vibe from her, but it is a tad messy. That, along with that schmutz collecting on the bottom tells me she’s not a neatfreak and her schedule has been demanding lately.

As Vicky is busy building a career, a good match for her will have to be supportive of that. And of course, not a dude who’s immaculate.

5. Well-Rounded

Everything in moderation and Vicky is the epitome of this.

She truly is a diverse chica that doesn’t like to be pigeonholed…plenty of healthy food for a foxy figure and some fun junk food to blow off some steam.

As mom taught us, a healthy diet + exercise = 1 bodacious body.

Vicy’s got spinach, Soy milk, OJ (also good for when guys are over, we love OJ), fruits and veggies. If you can’t put your best foot forward when you’re single, you’ll probably look even worse when you’re married. Vicky is clearly making an effort.

I also like to see she has some date-ready items. To assist her hosting duties, she has salsa, which is great to throw out with some chips, and pizza in case she and her dude have a case of the late night munchies.

Plus, she has milk…if it’s to brew coffee in the morning, that’s another smart move. Smell is the most under-rated of the 5 senses on the dating front. To wake up your date with the smell of breakfast and fresh brewed coffee is killer. Vicky has all the tools to do so.

Final Thoughts

Nothing is 100% right and wrong when it comes to dating. (Unless we’re talking Oscar Pictorious, of course) Just what’s right and wrong for us.

Vicky clearly has a lot going for her, the question is who’s the best fit?

One thing to note is I don’t see any booze. It might be kept elsewhere, but if you don’t drink, that’ll impact your dating as most dates revolve around eating and drinking.

It also appears Vicky has a cat. Personally, I don’t mind them the way some people do. She obviously won’t be a good fit with a cat-hater and overall, it’s important that she’s not the type who loves her pet more than her partner.

Overall, I get the vibe that Vicky is fun, with a sprinkle of cool, loving, nurturing and sassy, with just the right dash of crazy mixed in.

Fridge Dating Scorecard

Shag on first date: 4.5
Any girl who has zero booze in her fridge has a less than average shot of shagging on the 1st date. This is not a positive or negative, it’s just booze has greased the rails to many memorable mistakes for generations.

Marry: 7
She has qualities that are great for a life partner. She cooks and bakes, which shows a nurturing quality and a sense of domestication. She also has some fun shareable food in there, and can play host, another positive.

Personally, I’d like to see some booze and beef in there, but as they said in Some Like it Hot, nobdy’s perfect ☺.

Sleeping with the Enemy: 3.5
With the schmtuz on the bottom shelf, it does raise her odds of crazy. That along with her disheveled fridge door (and the fact that like Glenn Close, she has a cat) might not bring her up to red alert, but does bump her up the scale a bit.

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Dating Advice for Beyond the Fridge

Get to the ‘No’

One of the hardest and most important lessons I learned in sales is get to the ‘No’. Meaning, if a lead is not going to buy, don’t waste time and move on to the next one.

It’s the same with Dating.

Now, whether it comes to sales or dating, we instinctually want to keep hope alive. What we often need in life is the chance of success. And with that chance, we feel like we’re doing better, cause we have more chances.

But if there’s no real possibility there, we’re lessening our chances.

What I learned in sales is that if it’s going to be a ‘no’, the sooner you know, the better, so you can move on to the next lead. You don’t want to cut off a lead prematurely, but if you know what to look for, it doesn’t take long to gauge whether or not there’s true potential.

Again, same thing with dating. We often let emotion get in the way and resist getting to the ‘no’, even when deep down inside, we know we’ll end up there.

Before I got married, the longest relationship I had in my life was a year and a half. That’s surprising to some people. To me, what’s surprising is when people date for 2 years or more when what they want marriage out of the relationship.

A girlfriend I had in my 20’s said to me after a year that if deep down inside, I knew I was not going to marry her, to please love and respect her enough to tell her and let her move on. To waste her time would be the most selfish thing I could have done. And we broke up soon after. (She was married to someone else a year later, which I was happy to see)

If someone is clearly not right for you, you don’t need more than a year to know it. And I can’t tell you how many endless stories I’ve heard about people not getting what they want out of a relationship and letting it drag on for years. Most of the time, it ends up in the same place…over.

So when it comes to the valuable, precious time you have to date and find the one, approach it like sales. Get to the ‘no’ if it’s not right and only give those who have a realistic shot of giving you what you want out of life the time they deserve.

Now, there are exceptions to every rule and I’ve heard how people have stuck around for years and it worked out. But for the most part, it doesn’t. And if they got to the ‘no’ (or ‘yes’) earlier, they might have ended up married earlier as well.

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Fridge Analysis

Stonehill,

I have been out with with this girl a few times and finally managed to get a shot of her fridge. I was only able to get this shot, without her catching me. She is a MILF who is going through a divorce, the jury is still out on the level of her craziness so I am hoping you can shed some light on it for me. Should I be running yet? Thanks for the help, bro!

-Brad

Stonehill Analysis

Brad,

Right off the bat, I’m excited for you. (And your penis) If this MILF is going through a divorce, she wants nothing more than to rock your world, and further justify that whatever problems she had in her marriage, it was her husband’s fault and he was a total dick.

So don’t run yet. At least not til she bangs you so much, you can’t run, just limp.

Now lets see what else our first MILF fridge tells us…

Even if she drinks beer, there’s enough here that she clearly wants to make her guy comfy. She even bought a variety pack to cover all the bases, from lager to stout. (Smart chick :) Plus, I’m making the assumption that her kids are not drinking age: if she was knocked up as a teenager, her fridge would probably be held together with duck tape.

Her fridge also tells me that she’s doing okay financially, and looking for better things from you than money. This is backed up by the fact that she’s buying only name brands: Philadelphia, Kraft, Silk and French’s are all Stonehill-approved: (though I’m a Gulden’s man myself).

One red flag is on the 3rd shelf from the bottom…is that a freakin’ wine box?? If so, that reinforces you’re in for a sprint, not a marathon. The women I know don’t drink their wine from cardboard. I mean, 2-Buck Chuck comes in a bottle. You’re clearly not dealing with a culture queen here.

Now, with a kid in the house, there’s a serious lack of quality kid food. I mean, where’s the Hawaiian Punch? The Smuckers Jelly? The Hershey’s Chocolate Syrup, the Log Cabin??? This MILF seems way uptight with her kid, which brings her up to Level 3 on the Wackpack Warning System.

This is crap news for Junior, but great news for you…uptight, conservative women are the biggest freaks in the bedroom. Scientific fact.

If you meet her kid, sneak him a box of Twinkies, and tell’m to hide it under his bed. That way, he’s on your side, and has another excuse to stay in his room and away from his mom’s door when she bangs you.

So set up camp and rest well tonight soldier. You have long battles ahead. And rest you must. You and your cavalry are going to need it.

Fridge Dating Scorecard

Shag on first date: 9.9
I don’t believe in 10’s, but this is a slam dunk on a 6 foot hoop. She needs to cure I’ll-Never-Get-Laid-Again syndrome and anything short of a seizure won’t blow this one.

Marry: 0.1
The poor girl is going through a divorce, don’t even think about it. And as she’s practically thinking like a guy right now, that’s the last thing on her mind.

Sleeping with the Enemy: 3
She’s got bigger bunnies to boil, starting with her ex-husband’s.

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Phil Hulett Show

I was a guest on Phil Hulett and Friends.

Listen to the broadcast here: http://philhulettandfriends.podbean.com

Scroll down to the 6-24-14 show. Phil and Friends start talking about Check Their Fridge at 8:00 and I join the chat at 10:40.

It was a pleasuring working with Phil and his team!

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ABC Los Angeles

Check Their Fridge was featured on ABC Eyewitness News in Los Angeles: http://abc7.com/food/what-your-fridge-says-about-your-love-life/135732/

I had a blast working with Lori Corbin and analyzing the fridge of Ashley (who happens to be single, gentleman :)

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